Help Me Organize My ADHD self/child/spouse
It's easy to be pretty hard on yourself, which leads to more anxiety and frustration. One redditor suggested, "Don't kill yourself if you're not on schedule. Everyone falls off schedule. Just get back on the horse." (redditor: 321_liftoff)
While quality is important, often not completing a task will cause more problems than simply getting it done and turning it in. "Remember: completed at a 'meh' state is still: completed. Work to just get things done, regardless of the quality. Especially if you're struggling to maintain focus. If quality is a huge issue with the task, revisit it later if you can." (redditor: SketchyBones)
"Have three of whatever you need on a day to day basis that is affordable. One for home, one for school, and one extra that goes with you at all times. I have a calculator at work in the lab, at home, and in by backpack that travels with me to school. Ditto for pens, pencils, writing objects, etc. I have glasses, but only two pairs, so one travels with me everywhere in my purse, and the other stays home." (redditor: 321_liftoff)
"Have a specific place for everything. When I go to work, my purse and backpack get stowed under my desk, and stay there. I take things out as needed, but they always get placed on my desk. When I come home, my purse goes on the table and my bag near my desk. This reduces losing the important stuff everywhere." (redditor: 321_liftoff)
"Tech[nology] is... amazing, and one of the best tools for ADD/ADHD kids nowadays. I use Gmail to funnel all my important emails together, Google Tasks to make lists of things to do, and Google Calendar to keep my schedule. I use backup software like Dropbox to make sure my data is secure. If possible, I take notes on my computer which again go into cloud storage so even if I somehow lose my computer (unlikely, since it resides in very specific places), my data is safe." (redditor: 321_liftoff)
"Give yourself warnings. We have a tendency to lose steam on big or long term projects, so add random notifications to remind yourself they need to be done (Google Calendar is great for this)." (redditor: 321_liftoff)
"Write out clear, cohesive outlines. I know this seems stupid since everyone teaches you this, but it's really, really important. We have trouble organizing our thoughts, so this is a good way to clear them up." (redditor: 321_liftoff)
7. Break Up Tasks
Several contributors mentioned making tasks more manageable for adults with ADHD by breaking them up into small, obtainable goals. "Try not looking at the whole picture so much, pin down one thing that you want to do, whether it's write the introduction to an essay, or read one chapter of a book on the topic for research. The moment you try and look at the whole thing, and consider the size and effort the whole essay or project will take you'll zone out and become disinterested. I think maybe it helps to lie to yourself, say "all I need to do is this one thing, it's just a small thing, and I can do it", and repeat again and again." (redditor: chrisbucks)
To do lists can be a great way to set small, manageable tasks. "For big tasks, divide the work up into sections. For example, you could have one task as 'research x, y, and z'. Once that's done, you can have 'write outline of paper, citing specific sources from research that will fit into each section', and then, 'write introduction'. This will make the work more manageable." (redditor: 321_liftoff)
"Schedule ample amounts of time for any given task. Got a homework assignment you think will take 1 hour, tops? Give it 2 hours on your schedule, because more often than not you'll realize the task takes a little more effort than initially predicted. If it doesn't, the extra time can be used to polish the assignment up, and once that's done can be used to treat yourself to some fun time." (redditor: 321_liftoff)
"I find that music in the background is often helpful. I generally opt for upbeat, repetitive music. For instance, right now I'm typing up complete instructions for a security site. I'm listening to Pandora on "Parov Stella" which is Electro-swing." (redditor: PaulieRedcoat)
These last two suggestions are my own, added to help flesh out the list. You could google "help me organize" all day long, but poor habits will sobotage any organizational efforts. Establishing a routine and making sure you get to bed on time, will help you get up on time, and make a rushed and anxiety-ridden morning less likely. Making sure that you eat often will also help. Some individuals will benefit from low-carb diets, though not all. Individuals with high anxiety will do better on a balanced diet, trading white carbohydrates (white pasta, white bread, potatoes) for whole grains (whole wheat pasta, brown rice, quinoa).
Check out our post on how neurofeedback can help. These options can be used along with medication or on their own. The goal is to help the brain communicate more efficiently with itself. This allows for better decision making, more appropriate self-censoring (i.e. less sticking-of-one's-foot-in-one's-mouth), and increased self-regulation of attention and focus.