by Nikki Schwartz
Yes, kids with ADHD should sit still. All the time. Preferably, they can sit still with an elephant sitting on top of them. ;) Because for some kiddos with ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorders this is about the only way to make it happen. Great idea, huh? Check out more of my creative ADHD Tips for Parents. (By the way, how fun is the photo of the cutie pie under the elephant statue?)
So, barring squishing your kids with very large animals, what then? Well, this might be the wrong question to start with. So, what is/are the right question(s)?
Why do they fidget?
This is one reason why people with ADHD often complain about having trouble waking up in the morning. That frontal lobe needs a kick start to wake up in the morning or to stay active during boring tasks. So, they fidget. Fidgeting activates the frontal lobes.
Sitting still during a boring task can be literally painful for a person with ADHD.
Watch a person with ADHD doing something they find fascinating and interesting. You know what you won't see? Fidgeting. Their is no need to stimulate the frontal lobes, those lobes are already engaged.
But, their fidgeting drives me crazy!
- Fidgeting is annoying for parents, teachers, classmates, and siblings.
- They can't stay on task, because they are fidgeting.
In the book, Fidget to Focus, the authors suggesting asking these questions instead:
- What methods of fidgeting/movement are NOT annoying to others?
- Which ones don't take away from staying productive and on task?
In another post in our series, I discussed in depth a variety of different types of "fidget strategies" for ADHD and Autism, along these lines.
So, should ADHD kids be made to sit still?
So, will it be the elephant or a fidget strategy?
Nikki Schwartz is a Counselor Resident at Spectrum Psychological and focuses on using neurofeedback, play, and talk therapies to provide practical, effective counseling to families and clients. You can find her on Pinterest, Twitter, and Facebook, and Google+
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